Hello Dear Reader,
I've decided to answer another question, "How do you create your Christmas gift list?". To start with, I set a budget of the money I want to spend. I make as many gifts as I can. I have two grown children, one husband, one mum, one dad, one mother in law, one sister in law, one brother in law and wife and two nieces. It is expensive. However, in global terms we all have all the riches we could possibly want and there is certainly nothing that we need. I do give gifts and I will share what I do.
I spend between £5 and £20 per person and buy things and make things over the year. I set myself a theme to make things easier for myself. One year, every one had a gift in a mug, wrapped in cellophane. I made homemade soap, put in a flannel and a facepack for the ladies and a small can of body spray for the bloke. That went down well. I bought the mugs over the year from the supermarket and slipped one a week into the budget. I bought the cellophane one month, the flannels the next and so on until I had enough for the gifts. That year, the mug gifts cost £5 each. These go to extended family, I do thing differently with immediate family.
My theme for this year are homemade stockings,(I've made four for my immediate family) they can use them for decorations. I'm using up my fabric to make these. For my mum and dad, there will be a small gift inside, such a chocolate for dad and nougat for mum. My mother in law is getting a homemade quilt. I will also have other little homemade things for people. None will have cost me anything and I'll just use what I have in my sewing room to create presents.
My son and daughter will get a token small gift such as a couple of books and something homemade by me, such as a scarf, cushion or bag. I usually spend about £20 each on them.
We also send a gift to my brother in law and his wife and this year they are getting chickens (in the form of a donation to Oxfam.) This is also their card. Sister in law will get safe water for ten people. The nieces will get a health check each.
We have also bought safe water for twenty people for mum and dad. Mum loves this, one year I bought her a school desk and stationery and she thought that was a lovely gift.
Dearly Beloved and I usually have a good think about what we will buy each other and this year have decided to buy each other mosquito nets. We know we have so very much already and remember that when we give gifts and instead of spending a mass of money on things we just don't need we remember those who live in need all of the time. We do spend quite a bit of money, but we put some aside all year and have savings for such items.
You can buy gifts from here.
Like all items, we budget for an extra spend and have savings for this time of year.
Over to you Dear Reader, how do you budget and write your gift list?
Until tomorrow,
Love Froogs xxxx






I fear this year I haven't made enough. Hopefully people wont mind.
ReplyDeleteAre the mosquito nets for a project or are you going somewhere that you need them?
Take a look at Oxfam Unwrapped and you will see where the mosquito nets go, we don't actually get them.
DeleteAh ok I understand now. I had visions of you camping somewhere that you needed nets. have been there myself! LOL
DeleteWe save money every month from January onwards to cover gift expenses and keep to this amount of money. We don't have any credit cards. We like to buy consumables as presents such as wine, nice biscuits or experiences such as cinema vouchers. This solves the problem of buying people things they don't need or want.
ReplyDeleteI remember I once did the Oxfam thing and got my Daughter a flock of chickens, she was still laughing when she rang me as her other half said I was crazy and where the heck were they supposed to put them! This year Hubby and I have adopted a guide dog each for daughter and Grandson, something very special we think. daughters Oh is getting a hamper that I have been buying for over the weeks. Lost others will be getting homemade - my brother loves my biscotti - and am attempting limoncello for a few, just glad I gave up drinking as I would happily drink all the limoncello myself, its yummy. My son is very laid back and loves anything I get him, same with his girlie who loves Primarni so is easy to buy for. I do the pots of gold thing every year and they go down well. Ginny
ReplyDeleteI set a budget for each person to buy them 3 gifts. This started when the kids were small and represented the gifts of the Wise Men. (I also told me when to quit shopping). I keep an ongoing list of things they say they want or need and shop from that. I always try to give them each at least one homemade gift. Last year my daughter got pajamas made from fabric that was given to me; this year she's getting a tote bag. My son likes kitchen stuff and I keep him supplied with potholders, dishtowels, hand-knitted dish cloths. One year I gave him "dinner and a movie"--homemade lasagna, French bread and salad mix, plus a voucher for a movie rental. He loved it!
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I give gifts to each other and to our two unmarried adult children. All of our parents are now deceased, but we gave to them when they were alive. We used to give to my sister's kids, but my sister didn't like what I gave, so I crossed them off my list.
Because our kids are older, I often buy them admission tickets, such as movie tickets for our daughter and ski lift tickets for our son.
Our daughter is disabled and likely will never marry. When our son marries, we'll give him and his wife a joint gift, plus presents for the kids. Probably not three, however! But...maybe. If it falls within the budget I set. Cardinal rule: we pay ca$h for Christmas. Last year my husband and I gave each other surgery for the dog.
We save for our budgeted Christmas allowance and probably splurge some in comparison to other lists and we rarely do any kind of gift giving the rest of the year. However this is the one time of year children are allowed to ask for a big ticket item. My usual requirement is that they give me a list of three things -- one splurge, one practical and one small. Most years they have collaborated on the splurge, but as they have aged it has been harder and harder for them to come up with something for their list....son's request this year was jeans for example, while daughters was a video system. For husband's family (because of distance) we pre-order gift baskets...given the size of the families and shipping costs this is our best option. My family buys (each according to conscience) for nieces and nephews (5 children in total) and the adults either exchange handmade gifts or take up $5 each for a donation to a family or cause.
ReplyDeleteWe also allot a portion for a needy family and allot for a few splurges (like either a movie or perhaps more expensive cheese/wine/chocolate) than we would normally buy.
This year we're well within budget and I'm thinking we may have enough to visit a near by historical site that goes all out for Christmas (with their decorations).
I put all my spare change in a big bank and break it out on December 4th. That is my Christmas fund. I only have Mom, three daughters, son-in-law, grandson, in laws and hubby. Will have all but two daughters and Hubby done before Thanksgiving as we will take wrapped gifts down to save on shipping. We have a big holiday meal. I have already bought most of the meat. So I do try to do it through out the year!.
ReplyDeleteI save for Christmas for several months beforehand. I save any leftover food money each week and any unexpected bits of money that come my way--for example my son might give me "petrol money" and I save it towards Christmas. I couldn't possibly go into debt for it--been there before! I am making a quilt for a child this year and my friend and I exchange home made tokens--maybe help with house cleaning for a day,or cooking a dinner or two. It tends to be useful things. Occasionally a meal out or an outing of some kind. I suppose I do a mixture of things--some bought gifts and some home made and some tokens. We try to have nicer food on some days but too much fancy food leaves us longing for something plain.... Baked potatoes or beans on toast! We have a bottle of fizz with the Christmas meal but otherwise don't drink.
ReplyDeleteUsually I have saved more than enough money for food so I use the rest to restock the freezer and cupboards with basics.m
I have finally got my rather large and extended family to see that it is better that we don't exchange gifts with the grown ups at all. We are just to do a small gift for each child. It was getting ridiculous and Ive tried for a number of years to get people to see the light on this one - at last they agree! We are focussing on spending time together instead and sharing the cooking. I won £100 grocery voucher which will more than cover me over Christmas too! Happy Days.
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thank you for an interesting Post,i loved the idea of the Oxfam gift!
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ReplyDeleteI do something similar myself I have an old money box and in it I but copper coins and a small whiskey bottle(oh those were the days)! lol and i put 5ps in that and its what ever I have in my purse when I come home at the end of an outing some times, a lot of times there's nothing to go in. This coupled with my Sainsbury points is my budget for Christmas, fluctuates every year and I Love the challenge. We are a small family dad sister brother in law one nephew and my sweetie. He has children and this year I have made from my stash blankets as a rule. on average they have cost me in money about £3 as all was thrifted or given to me. M Sister this year is a no spend As she wanted a case to put her knitting needles in so I have done that one for her crochet hooks an assortment on draw string bags and a padded note book holder.Material cost me £2 in total and I bought that forever ago and was very lucky got a lot for my money I think in terms of physical cost I MAY have spent 75p. we know how to spend in our family lol For others there is a little something for them pot of jam or marmalade. throwing in some pickled eggs this year. I have been saving back my jars and need to use them , we have no space and there driving Dad la la. What I ADORE about this way of being is it forces you to think outside the box. As my aunt used to say to me think. make. do. I wonder why it took em so long! Have fun everybody
Rachel
It is really neat to see how everyone plans their gifts. I struggle with this, but not for the reasons I should, I think. My children are still very young and I budget a certain amount for them, and that works great. Same for my husband. We are not extravagant but my children are at an age where getting a certain toy makes their year, so they get one, just one. Their other gifts are things like felt crafty bits, and books that we use all year long and truthfully, I would buy anyhow. Where it all goes wrong is the extended family, service providers, teachers, friends, ect gifts. I can quickly find everyone EXPECTS a gift, and they add up to more than I was going to spend on my five children and husband combined. I think I need to take Froogs advice from the last post, and just say No.
ReplyDeleteVery similar to you, and for the last few years our family (quite big) have exchanged small food hampers with each other. Easy to make up the hampers week by week along with the shopping (checking the sell-by dates will last into spring) and then we all end up with well-stocked cupboards for winter. :)
ReplyDeleteThat is a great idea. I would love to receive one, and it would be enjoyable to put together.
DeleteHave very few people to give to, so in a way that helps. They have some home-made and some bought. Our walking companions (also friends) get something to the value of £1 or less (we all agree on this), and another friend gets something when I can (she is often not around at Christmas).
ReplyDeleteIt may seem like a radical idea but three years ago we stopped celebrating Christmas. No cards, no gifts, no decorating equals no cost and no stress. I'm an atheist, so why should I celebrate Christmas. We have no kids, it might be different if we did. I do have nephews ans a niece but none of them have yet to comment on not receiving presents from us (they do get something on their birthdays) probably because they get so much from everyone else. I do cook a pre Dr Who meal on 25th December. but even that is low key. So ask your self, do you really need to celebrate Christmas if you don't have any religious convictions.
ReplyDeleteI used to avoid Christmas, I'm not religious so thought why should I celebrate it. But tbh avoiding it became more of a pain than just going with it.
DeleteI like seeing people, eating together, decorating the house differently and having mid-week parties. So I go with it and the stress and unhappiness has dropped away. None of our friends or family live within 40 miles of us, many at the other end of the country or overseas so it's the one time everyone can afford to get together. It's a special time for us, because it's about togetherness.
A celebration on December 25th has nothing to do with Christianity - the origins are far, far older. Google "The origins of christmas" and you'll see. My view is that we'll let the christians borrow the celebration so long as they let us borrow the name. ;-) Celebrate it as what it is - a festival event to bring people together to eat, drink and be merry - togetherness sums it up nicely as you say. To us, the giving of gifts which are needed, or which form a treat that people may not be able to genuinely afford or justify for themselves is a part of this.
DeleteBoth of you have summed up what I was attempting to say (in a post that I seem to have lost) far more succinctly than I could manage. Yes a time to be together and share gifts that are" needed or a treat that they couldn't afford" is exactly it. Thanks.
DeleteWe stopped celebrating Christmas years ago after my ex husband made it clear to my eldest son that there was no Father Christmas. DS wasn't ready to let go of the magic and he cried when he found out.......( he was 7 at the time!)
DeleteI am not a Christian and lean towards more pagan beliefs so we decided to celebrate the Winter Solstice instead.
I decorate the living room with lots of holly, fir and ivy, but we don't have a tree. I get up really early and fill the house with candles which we keep burning all day. We do most of the things that normally happen on Christmas day, (presses, huge dinner etc) but we spend the day together, eating vast amounts of Satsumas and Quality Street whilst watching our favourite DVD's - it works for us and is an oasis of peace at a very frantic time of year.
I don't mind working the Christmas Eve slot at work, so it frees up time for the other members of staff who do celebrate Christmas
Large bag in spare wardrobe gets filled all year with little charity shop bargains and handmade gifts - and I get to November and wrap them all. Budget exceedingly tight this year, 40 people on my list - but I have come in at total of under £60 for 39 of them [still to sort out my OH's present] AND I am helping the Sailors' Society woolly hat appeal too, giving time to knit hats from wool I have been given. It is great to see so many other friends giving more to the needy and less to Argos & co!
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I can alreadyy feel the Christmas 'tyranny' building in folk I speak to. I wish I could make them feel it is ok not to try and please everyone and then they would stay within budget. I am also noticing each year the expectations from the school, athough I have to say I think primary schools expect more donations etc than the secondary school so far. I also agree that if you are struggling for cash or trying to keep within a budget donating your time, home made gifts, baking are much better contributions. No one should feel obliged to give money that they know they just cant afford to give.
ReplyDeleteOH and I are lucky to have both parents still with us and they are so good to us all year we make sure they get gifts. Not necessarily extravagant but things we know they like and will make use of. i.e vouchers for local garden centre etc. They always seem to be apreciated. We have not given to siblings for years and do not expect anything from them either. I have 3 neices (who have everything and more...) I usually give them vouchers to spend and it keeps it simple.
We also usually host the Christmas lunch as we have plenty of room. I love doing this and don't consider it a chore. I also don't expect anyone to chip in but sometimes they do, which is appreciated.
I am sure some of our family consider us 'tight' but I don't concern myself with their opinions anymore. I am more concerned with having good family memories and teaching my kids that a mound of presents doesn't equal happiness in this life.
I give a lot of home baked goodies as gifts , but for the past couple of years I have financed Christmas gifts for family by pre Christmas ebay sales , and then buy my gifts on ebay too . Also spend some of the ebay money on goodies from great Approved Foods
ReplyDeleteThanks again for all your great tips and especially the recipes
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We don't buy many gifts, just for immediate family. We budget throughout the year to pay for it and then just pay attention to what people say when we speak to them and buy something they've mentioned or something we know they'd like but would never treat themselves to. Not expensive things really but things like a couple of "nice" balls of wool rather than the unravelled jumpers or poundshop yarn they usually use. Or nice biscuits, knowing that the tin will be as appreciated as the contents. Things like that.
ReplyDeleteWe don't buy gifts for friends, we all just make the effort to travel to a suitable location and get together for a few hours. Some travel over from the US, Australia and Africa just for a couple of weeks to see their family so it's great to see everyone for a cup of tea and a hug even if there's not as much time as we'd like.
I give a lot of home baked goodies as gifts , but for the past couple of years I have financed Christmas gifts for family by pre Christmas ebay sales , and then buy my gifts on ebay too . Also spend some of the ebay money on goodies from great Approved Foods
ReplyDeleteThanks again for all your great tips and especially the recipes
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We were doing quite well, we thought, having non-pestering kids. We had quite bad TV reception, and so only had the BBC kids channels. Now we have freesat, and so the kids have access to several advert filled channels. The 'I want xxx for Christmas' started instantly.
ReplyDeleteWe save throughout the year and have a set amount for each family member. And we work it out from there. My parents are geing a joint gift this year of Euros as they are going to Italy in March. They know that it isnt a lot and they get a couple of token gifts to open, which I got new from the charity shop. My kids get money and then they can get what they want and get better value from the sales. DH and I buy one gift each, I am getting a breadmaker and he is getting a pair of police boots. We would rather buy gifts people wanted, then the tat that some shops sell. I mean who wants a tomato sauce napkin holder or an overpriced mug which has penny sweets in. Just go and have a look in BHS to see what I mean!
ReplyDeleteXmas now is all about tat and that is soo wrong it makes my blood boil!!!! My twin is the special one in my eyes as she has colitis and it nearly killed her, so I always go with her and pick a charm for her bracelet. And it is always something that is close to the both of us. This year it is sisters as they didnt do twins! And it was reduced so I was happier even still.
You mentioned gardening, and I know all of you Brits are garden-mad...some of best gifts I've ever bought were garden tools on clearance in the fall, usually from stores that just have a seasonal garden center and need to clear things out to use the space for something else. Gardeners really appreciate garden gifts and you typically can't buy them in winter where I live. This is something to remember next fall when you see a good pair of pruners on sale for half price.
ReplyDeleteWe buy our three sons and wives/partners nice tin of sweets OR biscuits and a calender, the grandchildren get what nanny and granddad choose for them.
ReplyDeleteYears ago I asked my friend what is bought her son for his 18th, she said the same as his 15th, 16th and 17th CLEAN WATER! Those Oxfam gifts can used for birthdays too.
Julie xxxxxxxx
We only buy for each other, daughter, son, daughter in law, 2 grandsons, and set a $ limit last year. This year present to daughter is a contribution to her plane fares home as she lives interstate, others will get what they ask for. I save throughout the year for Christmas and other gifts so not a financial burden. We are hosting extended family get together this year but everyone shares provision of food and there are no gifts. Am very thankful that our Christmas celebrations are simple and frugal!! Cheeses Judy xx
ReplyDeleteWe have year about at my folks' and john's folks ( incl brothers, sisters, bros in law, sisters in law + kids) So when it's my family's turn we all gather somewhere and the focus is on general merriment. For the kids , presents are obviously great excitement - but in the extended families we are randomly assigned 1 kid per kid we have. Therefore, as I have 5 kids, we pull 5 kids' names out of the hat to give prezzies to.
ReplyDeleteAnd we do MAKE BAKE SEW GROW. I cannot stress enough how good this is!
I love the oxfam etc idea. I often give the school supplies/fees to the kids' teachers + the kids make them a little something.
hi Froogs
ReplyDeleteChristmas is getting crazier by the year and what is the point of buying someone a gift that they do not need. It is wasteful and pointless.
We have a very small family and we give gifts that we know the person really needs or wants. We also give Trocaire and Christian aid gifts. Last year we gave the gift of Freedom from slavery, school fees, water etc. This year we will do the same.
We all have so much and others don't even have a drink of clean water.
I went down the Oxfam 'unwrapped gifts' last year, everyone loved opening their envelopes and seeing what they had had donated in their names.
ReplyDeleteIt made my Dad's day that he had equipped an alltoment for a third world farmer, he was too ill by that stage to visit his own anymore. My brother was at first shocked that he had been 'given' a goat, he lives in a studio flat, but then he understood and breathed a huge sigh of relief!!
Sue xx
Well I have 10 sets of people to buy for outside of my 2 kids (2 couples) and im going going giving them personalised cups. I bought porcelain paint pens and will be putting there nicknames on them for them. I will also be making some homemade hot chocolate truffles and giving them each a bag of them with there cups. Ive bought 6 christmas tins and will pack them in those.
ReplyDeleteIf I can ill be making homemade cookie mixes for the kids and giving them each a cookie cutter or 2 so they can make the cookies with there parents and have fun cutting out christmas shapes. I saw a box of 18 christmas cutters for cheap the other day so will pick them up and still have some for my own kids.
My husband and I dont buy each other gifts, if we need something big for the house or want something new like a new TV then that will be our present and we will buy it in the sale after christmas.
I really don't concentrate on Christmas shopping, per se. Throughout the year items catch my eye. For example, I will be walking down an aisle and something will leap out at me and scream, "BUY ME FOR SO AND SO!" It then gets stored in a closet. Come Christmas time all that is needed is some wrap! YAY ME!
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