Friday, 4 January 2013

Simple Solutions to living cheaply. No.2


Hello Dear Reader,

I told you I can waste time! I have a whole heap of jobs to do, from laundry to cleaning the car and I made a quilt instead. I started this on Wednesday when Dearly Beloved went back to work. The bright bubbly blue fabric is a pair of gent's pyjamas from the charity shop. The batting is the only major purchase and I buy it from the local craft shop in Liskeard. They always have it in stock along with basting spray and anything else I need for quilting.


A Dear Reader in America sent me a huge box of quilting fabric and I've blended some of it into the last four quilts I made. I made a quilt for a friend who picked me up in his taxi in London and took me to the blog awards, some of the American fabric went in that. I made a quilt for my dad's birthday and some went in that. I made a quilt for a charity raffle and some went in that. I've made this quilt for a friend's baby who is due next year and some went in that too. That box of fabric travelled half way across the world and it's gone to the hearts and homes of four other British families and I know the recipients so far are really enjoying them.


 I got it finished today. It isn't perfect and I had another go at free motion quilting the edge, just to help hold it together.



I'm not going to suggest that quilting is a simple solution to living cheaply but it does help me to get onto what I'm going to share with you today.

2. Your best is good enough

My quilts are bright, scrappy, a bit hit and miss but they are full of love and gave me joy with every stitch. I know there are quilts out and about in the UK keeping a baby warm, a little girl warm in Manchester, two soon to be babies will be kept warm, friends and family are being kept warm. They keep us warm too. However, they wouldn't get a rosette at a show and it doesn't matter to me that they wouldn't either. 

I do it my way.

Nothing in my house matches. Saucepans, cheese graters, pots and pans, plates and cutlery all come from charity shops. My clothing is a collection of good quality items, with bits I've made myself, given to me by friends or bought in charity shops. My hair colourant comes from Boots and I do all my own beauty treatments. The high way, moors and lake side are my multi-gym A walk and a coffee from a flask is my day out and relaxation.



(The backing of the quilt is an old baby's duvet cover from the charity shop and the edging is a gent's shirt cut into 2.5" strips.)

My quilts are not perfect, my life isn't perfect and I'm not perfect but it's good enough. My 60's furniture, gleaned via ebay and Freecycle is good enough for me. The homemade quilts on our beds and over our arm chairs are good enough for us. 

The chopped pallets in the fire, that keep us warm are good enough for us.



I have wasted time, energy and sometimes my soul trying to please other people. I've no need to be, or to have anything that suits anyone else. I've been called boring, old fashioned, repressed, dowdy, stern, harsh, miserable (to my face too!) and told to get a life. I do what I chose, I'm not bored, I make my own decisions, I was not put on this earth for you to look at and if you don't like what you see then walk away. 

My way of life costs me very little. I am warm, comfortable, eat well, I'm well entertained and I have freedom and choices. I'm happy and my life is very simple.

If you want to save money, stop worrying about the way things look, whether your food had bed time stories read to it, what gadgets you buy your kids (library books are free) or where you or if you go on holiday. Don't believe the hype, the brain washing or the green washing and stop worrying about whether something is from Lidl or Waitrose............it will all come out poop in the end! (apologies for the bluntness but it's true)

Do it your way and don't live up to anyone else's standards.

Until tomorrow,

Love Froogs xxx

68 comments:

  1. That is such a beautiful quilt, I waisted time today by going to the doctors! Went to have a stroll in some of the villages charity shops and chatted to some of the managers. It was such a lovely time and it didnt even cost me any money whatsoever!!!
    I am going to starting taking my camera abd taking pictures as there is so much going on around us. I am going to capture as much as I can this year!
    You are such an inspiration to me and I am so thankful. Food shopping next for me, but I am not taking my purse as DH is paying for it all!!!!Alliexxxxx

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  2. Once again you speak the truth. The honesty of your blogs is what brings us all back, day after day. You are inspiring and such a remarkable person...I take my hat off to you.

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  3. It's the simplest things that most of us find delight in. A winter sunrise. Beautiful music. An engaging novel. I think the trick is to ignore what a marketing agency says we should enjoy, and just quietly live our happy little lives.

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  4. I like that phrase-'Do it your way and don't live up to anyone else's standards' Resonates strongly with me, especially after a so called friend has admitted she and her ex husband looked down on myself and my hubby; all because we lived for our family and not for wealth and trappings. She now has no family, turned to us first for help two years ago when she escaped his abuse-and we gladly helped ( at a time when our daughter was in hospital) and were there for her financially and emotionally. Our reward was to be dropped as soon as her life took off, and at a meeting over Christmas-she let this bomb shell drop. I can count my blessings daily and i don't deny i was hurt-but i don't feel the need to live up to her standards-because i never want to sink that low. Life takes it's toll-i hope she truly finds some peace but it will not be at our expense and i am not going to justify my lifestyle to anyone. Thank you so much for this post i was trying to find a way to express how i felt and this does.x

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    1. Hi
      I had something similar happen to me a long term friend Married and wasn't domesticated. So I helped her lean how to be even down to some basic sewing. then pow! nothing I bumped into her a few years later when I was at uni she was working and I was a student, I was greeted like some long lost friend. On refection I found myself widely groping for the name of her husband and could barely remember it. I realized then that I had lost very little. Rachel xxx

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    2. How good of you that you were kind to her. I seriously doubt that your "friend" was truly abused at all, considering that is a word so overused by women who want to dump husbands who didnt live up to their narcissistic expectations. Just learn and move on. So sorry for her betrayal of you and your kind husband. Consider the source, Dearheart.

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    3. Thank you both so much for your kind words. I had a couple of miserable days over it and now feel like I can move on. xx

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  5. Love the quilts, it is something I want to try and do at some point this year. I have been having a sort out today and found some stuff to put on ebay and also a handful of loose change!

    I agree you should do whatever pleases you and not care what others think, do or have.

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  6. I agree with you totally on this one. I live my life for me ,not the Jones's or any bystander. I love the glow from finding a bargain, I just got a 3 kilo net of onions from a market stall for £1 as there was one damaged onion, French onion soup anybody? I have a stack of cotton shirts from a charity shop 50p each, these will make quilts and cushions and all the buttons will be saved. This is how I live MY life, it suits us and we are happy. We eat well and are warm, we have decent clothes none at full price, our home is a comfortable hodgepodge of furniture that we love, our sofa is big and squishy and piled with cushions and quilts and is 20 years old to us. You inspire me and I have become more frugal which makes me happier, so many thanks. Pam

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  7. Couldnt agree more! I spent my 20s accumulating 'stuff' to impress others, worried about what they'd think of me. Now i am in my 30s and i dont give a stuff what anyone thinks of me. I wonder if it's an age thing?

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    1. I used to have it written down on paper, now it is written into the back of my eyeballs : "What other people think of you is none of your business". It is so true and it seems to me that the other readers of this blog feel the same way. If we can get the movement going, maybe we can get the whole world thinking about needs and wants in completely different ways.

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  8. you make me smile, if we lived closer I think we could talk for hours, I have lived my life this way for a very long time and its so refreshing to meet someone who thinks like i do.Your quilts are beautiful, as are you, a gentle kind person you are, Make do or do without, we were raised this way, its not a bad way to be at all, reuse recycle were the norm for our family and to this day I still follow that way, its a challenge at times but thats what makes it fun!You are a perfect example of what fun life can be when following a more gentler way of life,

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  9. I love the bluntness of your post lol! I can relate to a lot of what you are saying, certainly about others expecting you to behave way, be a certain type of person.

    Nothing matches in my home either, but don't you find that even though it doesn't match, it still all goes together?

    This is a lovely quilt you are making.

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  10. Great post! You summed up my thoughts far more eloquently than I could manage.

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  11. Wonderful post! and it's my motivation to sew all weekend. I have tons of free time that I tend to waste and you are a real inspiration. It's tough when I have two teenage daughters to not feel like I'm short-changing them. Commercialism is rampant in the US and it's hard to ignore. My daughters do, most of the time, get it and are really very frugal compared with their friends so I am greatful but there are still 'things' I feel I should provide them. It's funny, though, when I feel this way and sit and talk to them, most of the time I'm doing it to myself and they don't feel short-changed. LOL I am a loyal reader of your blog and you are amazing. By the way, where did you meet your mate that feels likes you do?

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  12. We paid off the mortgage with packed lunches and unbought magazines and cooking from scratch. I encountered mild bemusement from some friends and the occasional snigger from younger colleagues. They weren't sniggering when I was able to retire comfortably if not luxuriously at a much younger age than they can hope to. Because now that those younger colleagues are no longer quite so young, they are discovering that as you hit later middle age, retirement starts to look increasingly attractive

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  13. I'm so glad I came across your blog. I have a box of fabric I've been saving until I could find "the perfect fabric" to have enough for a quilt. Your quilt is great and after seeing it I'll be starting a quilt of my own. I love your plain spoken honesty. Nothing in our home matches either. My clothes are warm and comfortable and probably nothing in my closets were purchased new.

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  14. The quilt's looking lovely - who cares whether it'd win a ribbon or not - I'm sure the recipient will love it to bits either way

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  15. Well my darling best friend, I can honestly say to the whole blog-o-sphere that you are none of these: boring, repressed, dowdy, stern, harsh or miserable. You and I are both a little old fashioned, if old fashioned is not wasting things and living differently now to live differently later.
    What you ARE is clear thinking and straight talking. You are inspirational to anyone clever enough to realise they need to get their lives out of the fast lane, and you give of yourself to help others.
    FM xx

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    1. Ditto to the ditto! Froogs you truly are inspirational and have a great life, a life you unstintingly share with others!
      Love this community :)
      Judy xx

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  16. Great post. I always do things my way, I don't care what people think. But.......I just found out library books are only free if you take them back on time Hmmmmmmmmmm!
    Julie xxxxxxx

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    1. Same here Julie I have an outstanding fine oh well must be off and pay the piper lol

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    2. Most libraries allow you to renew online or via the phone. I work in a library, another idea is to put an alarm on your mobile phone the day before the books are due back.

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    3. Simple yet genius tip Catsister! I read teen books half the time as there's no fine on kids books! But setting an alarm means I can re-enter the world of grown up reading. x

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    4. Genius tip Catsister! I tend to was teen books so there's no fine, by setting an alarm I can re-enter the world of grown up reading! And don't have to sneak photos of knitting patterns and recipes on my phone :-)

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  17. Lovely quilt! :) Nice sentiment too - I don't really care what people think. This year we're going even more frugal than ever and it feels like an adventure! :)

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  18. ....and there speaks a woman happy and safe in her own skin.

    Good for you girl, you have my utmost admiration.

    Sue xx

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  19. I totally agree with not caring about what other people think. It's how I live my life. I prefer people to like me for who I am not what I possess.

    I love your quilt, I started some patchwork this afternoon with my new fabric but was wondering how much the batting costs and what it looks like? Is it a thick, dense material or a kind of light polyester wadding?

    Kay xx

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    1. You can use an old blanket for batting. My sister uses old wool blankets.

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    2. Kay with my first quilt I bought whatever was available and bought a high loft, or fluffy stuff. I regretted that choice from the first choice.

      In Australia there is a tradition of making Waggas. These were basically recycling anything to keep oneself and family warm. So after looking at a few I can tell you my great grandmother used old blankets, sheep wool that was pretty much raw from the source. I have seen a program where they layered cotton wool from a roll in between brown paper.

      For choice I spend a little more. Nylon or synthetic stuff makes me hot and sticky. Also I lived in a humid, hot part of the country so breathable is a must for me. I buy cotton or a wool batting by Mathilda for choice. I will also buy a blend of these. The first time I saw quilting wadding I was shocked at how thin it was. As my greats did we have also recycled old blankets that are cotton or wool too.

      Good luck. I would recommend you look for specials and buy in bulk. Share with a friend if you can. Quilt guilds can by in bulk and often get trade prices too. Or at least that was so when I belonged to one. Froogs may have a different take.

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  20. Your quilts are lovely,keep up the good work. I used to take notice of what people thought of me but not any more.
    A Very Happy New Year.

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  21. Well said, this is something I will be trying to do this year as yes we have all been brainwashed into thinking labels matter. P.s. i love the quilt.

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  22. What a stunningly motivational post! Thank you, Froogs!! xx

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  23. What a stunningly inspirational post, Froogs! Thank you! x

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  24. All my furniture with the exception of the bed (bought new 22 years ago)is secondhand. Most of it is cane or wicker trimmed and I paint it all white. I add handmade applique cushions in bright colours (from my stash) and voila a lovely look for pennies. Like you I love to walk and take a flask of coffee with me. In warmer weather I also take my crochet hook and a small ball of yarn with me and crochet little flowers and edgings whilst watching the birds bounce around in the branches...bliss! When I do this on the beach you would be surprised at the number of people who stop by to chat about crochet and crafts in general. A very social and cheap outing!

    Sometimes I just take pen and paper out and write - letters, lists, stories, ideas for blog entries etc. Today I went for a walk and took my camera as I was looking for winter colour in the plant world (pics on my blog). I found loads of things to photograph.

    All these activities please and entertain me and like you I don't give a stuff if it's not on trend or if it's not anybody else's cup of tea.

    Linda xx

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  25. Thank you! That fabric has gone to the best home possible. Your quilts are so beautiful.
    And you are so right about living our lives the way we want. This life is not a dress rehearsal. It takes all kinds to make the world go around, etc. I would be miserable deep in debt. And none of the things I owned or places I went would make me happy.
    Keep doing what makes you happy. I know I will.

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  26. Absolutely LOVE the remark you made regarding dont worry if your food had a bedtime story told to it or not. I laughed very loudly at this, thankyou Froogs you really are down to earth and a lovely lady.
    Still giggling at the thought of some eco maniac spouting once upon a time to a chicken or a pig lol.

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    1. The ironic thing is that Aldi's meat is raised to higher welfare standards than most supermarkets - it's nearly all British and Red Tractor

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  27. You say nothing matches, but you are quite wrong. Everything matches perfectly in Purposeful Style. Some call it Artistic, some say Carnival, but labelling the style has value. Some people live in the cast-off style from magazines and media frenzies, but not Froogs. You do not live in Good Enough Land. Everything is much better than that; everything is Purposeful. When you say something is good enough for your household, there is an indication of a chip on the shoulder. But in real life, that chip is not there. Eliminate, frugally, this turn of phrase and position your possessions at the very top of the Purposeful tree where your goals are already standing proudly.

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    1. That's a really interesting point about the language we use to describe life. When I hear "good enough" then it's about having all I need/want. When I hear "purposeful" it doesn't sound like the content state of mind that "enough" hold, I'd never thought of "good enough" being a chip on the shoulder thing. Thanks.

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  28. I don't have anything in my home that matches either. I do love your quilts. I make mine the same. I've just finished one that is going to a little boy who is having brain surgery at GOSH in February, and I must say it's the one I am most proud of as I know he will snuggle it to bits, and it will bring such comfort to him!!

    Thankyou for writing such inspirational posts, and for not being scared to be yourself!! <@

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  29. Today I had to re-read your post as I was sure I had mis-read parts of it. It was the part where someone told you 'to get a life' - that amazed me - you have one of the most interesting, vibrant and exciting lives that a person could wish to have! All I can think is the person who suggested it was delusional in some way temporarily! No offence meant to them.

    Your quilts turn scraps of fabric into something beautiful! Well done they are lovely as always.

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  30. Very wise to choose to live your way....anyone else's path will lead to misery. I love the quilts and have a confession to make. I bought a heap of fabric yesterday. It was reduced from $22 to @6 a metre. I have told my children to expect a handmade Christmas from now on.

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  31. There are many things I can say about your blog, most have already been shared. You are truly a wonderful person who is sharing your life, ups and downs with us all. You speak from experience but are willing to give to others of your time and share how we can live life in our own way without racking up mountains of debt and stuff we don't want, need and that won't make us happy. I have laughed and cried whilst reading your posts, I have been inspired, motivated and am steadily making my way through my own issues.
    Keep up the posts, you are reaching out to people in need who don't always know where to begin, it can be scary. Your words do help and inspire us to get off our backsides and tackle our debt and lifestyles head on. Thank you so much.

    Carol x

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  32. I don't think I could quite live as frugally as you but I certainly don't judge you because you do. I admire you!
    You put nourishing food in your belly, warm your house, keep clean and tidy and you are a friendly, kind soul - you are good enough for me!

    Happy New Frugal Year!

    cheers - Joolz

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  33. I want one of your quilts and its all the more lovely that its handmade and recycled. Go Froogs, brilliant post!

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  34. Everything you have said is so true. I have always been a little that way but the older i get the more I am. Simplifying my lifestyle has reduced stress and i have never been one to care too much about what other people think.
    your quilts are beautiful and will be loved by whoever you gift them to just because you made them!!

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  35. Another lovely quilt.

    Well done you for not caring what anyone else thinks!

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  36. Morning Frugal Queen, great start to the new year, like many other family's we are living a real life not one that a advertising agency works hard to sell. no body is going to feel better younger thiner using a magical cream eating a wonder food or even driving a new beaut car, these are lies and time wasters not being home doing the best you can for those you love, much love Josy

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  37. Morning Frugal Queen, great start to the new year, like many other family's we are living a real life not one that a advertising agency works hard to sell. no body is going to feel better younger thiner using a magical cream eating a wonder food or even driving a new beaut car, these are lies and time wasters not being home doing the best you can for those you love, much love Josy

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  38. Why would people say such things? Forget them.

    Love the quilt. When will you start selling yours?

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  39. I only finished my first quilts later on last year as I was adamant that besides thread and batting, I would just use whatever fabric was in the house. Both hand sewn.
    Maybe after buying a new machine courtesy of the pay out from the 'CK and 'my' Winter House' mess,I can actually quilt and embroider on my machine.

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  40. What a great post, and thanks to everyone for their comments about what they use for quilts, It is something I want to try but will need all the tips I can find.

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  41. just started fooling around LAST night with quilting made a teeny tiny tooth pillow for a friends daughter for her birthday--LOVED IT and it was also cool to take a handmade present to the party!! she got three other handmade goodies and loved them all

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  42. Thank you, Froogs. Once again I can count on you to "keep it real" and push me back onto the straight and narrow. I have to keep reminding myself that this year is going to be different. Isn't it a shame that my "go to place", my "comfort zone" isn't simplicity?...though I SO want it to be! Please, don't change a thing to please anyone else, EVER, you are exactly who you should be...and that is exactly who I WILL be in 2013! Promise.

    Linda

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  43. Hey Froogs, I love your quilt and the fact you don't strive for perfection and go for love instead is the way it should be. If, by some chance act, it does turn out like the pictures in the book, then awesome; otherwise what's the harm? The lady who has quilted a couple of my special quilts says that if you can't see it while you are going past it at 60mph, then it doesn't really matter.
    If you are happy, your family happy and everyone is satisfied with their lot, then you have everything you need in life.
    Cheers

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  44. Hello,

    Nothing in my home matches and that's why I LOVE it. My dining room table is my parent's from the 60s and my favourite antiques are sourced from the salvation Army.

    I really like it how you march to the beat of your own drum.

    I don't know what Lidl is but I wish we had Waitrose in Aust as I find it so much cheaper than anything here. Groceries are OUT OF CONTROL here.

    I've wasted years trying to please others and like you care only to please myself.

    Love it that your quilts are keeping so many so happy and warm and that they are made with love xxxx

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  45. The quilts are wonderful! Such a talent you have.

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  46. Brilliant, inspirational post as always. Happy new year to you and your family. xx

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  47. Spot on again - good enough is good enough!

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  48. Oh Froogs, you make me want to dance, and I would SO like to give you a big hug right now. "Get a life" indeed! That's so funny that someone would say that to you; your life is so full and interesting already. I just love your practical and clever approach to living. You are a HUGE encouragement to me as I try to figure out how to make ends meet. (((HUG)))

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  49. I love your quilt, the last one I made, well actually adding the finishing touches used an old hospital blanket my grandmother had for the backing, but it's loved by the little ones I made if for already.

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  50. Right on Froogs! I love how you just say it and always get it right. I get really weary of all the green, organic bit. I like Aldi and I'm sticking with Aldi! I think with everything in moderation I will be fine in the end. The P.C. folks sure would not agree with that. That should be the #1 resolution for 2013 Good enough is good enough!!

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  51. Love the quilt Froogs.
    January 1st I looked at all the food I'd accumulated in my freezer and decided to eat my way through it. That's what it's for after all. My grocery bill for the week was $6 for a bag of my usual skim milk powder. That's it.
    I'll be doing more of the same this week but I'll need to buy fresh fruit (I grow my own fresh veggies).

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  52. I love that nothing matches in your home! It's the same in my home. I've rarely had a lot of money, but by living simply and frugally, I have been able to have and do many things I wanted. I hope lots of young people follow you; your information, tutorials, point of view, etc. are fantastic.
    Thanks so much. ~ Linne

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