Hello Dear Reader,
Here's my sewing room! I've tidied it and sorted out left over fabric. When I started quilting, I would cut some fabric and sew a few blocks and then went back and cut some more. I now make life easier by cutting every thing I need to start with. I don't like doing it, it's the boring bit of quilting. You can see that these are not the greatest fabrics. They are old pillow cases, shirts, pyjamas, there's a few odd nice bits, but the rest are what I have. If you go to Bonnie Hunter's blog, you'll see my next project as I take a scrappy trip around the world. I'm going big next time and will be making another queen sized project.
Sorry for another quilting analogy but if you want a simple life, then you have to:
3. Get the big jobs done first.
I'm writing this in response to a dear reader who said they'd never had a budget, what was a budget? and where did they start? If this is you then you've got a really big job ahead of you. You'll need to come back to this as you'll probably need a clear day and then a lie down in a dark room when you've finished. How, and well you may ask, does getting the big jobs done first help me live a cheaper and simpler life. My life is simple. I pay all the bills the day I get paid, I know exactly how much there is for energy, food, clothing, days out and anything I need. There isn't any money for anything else. That's good or bad depending on your perspective, remember....by now I've paid all my bills, I owe nothing more than my mortgage and I have all I need. In these times, that makes my life very simple and I have a clear budget.
Ok, so getting back to the request, firstly what actually is a budget? The starting point is how much money do we earn? If you are in a partnership, you are on a hiding to nothing if you don't do this together. This is not a relationship counselling session as I can only speak for ourselves, but this is our home and we jointly fund it. This is our life and we jointly fund it. A budget is the working out of how we pay for everything we need with the money we have. A budget is not decided after buying everything we want and then wondering how we are going to pay for it. Far from a budget, that's just plain silly!
So, have you done that? Do you have a clear joint figure of every penny that comes into your home every month. That might be variable due to you having an agency job or being self employed. The figure you will have to work with is the minimum possible figure. There is no good budgeting on a 'good day'. You'll have to start with the worst day.
Ok, on to step two of setting a budget. Find all your bills, all your direct debits, every phone bill, every single debt you owe and take a deep breath first as you are going to have to add up everything you HAVE to pay every month! You do not need some of it and you can decide later what can go, such a phone contract where you never use all of the minutes or the SKY contract where no one watches half of the channels.
This maybe a shock to you. You may have never done this before. You may have no idea of how much in debt you really are but I'm going to ask you to face up to it. Now on to the third step; how much in total do you owe? Look at everything; the bank loan, the student loan, the credit card, the car finance, the credit cards and the overdraft. You will need this figure to work out a budget as none of that money is yours and you need to pay it back or you will be a slave to it for the rest of your life.
When Dearly Beloved and I did exactly what I've asked you to do, it was a sobering moment. What stretched in front of us seemed totally unattainable. How could we actually have what might appear like a life to anyone else, pay all of these bills, pay off our debts and make a future for ourselves. We had to set a budget.
I don't know what Georgey boy is smiling about as setting a budget is all about breaking the bad news. You take figure A (how much money we earn) and then take away figure B (how much money we have to pay out) and then we have to work out how we are to live. The UK treasury sets a budget once a year and so should every family unless circumstances change such as a growth or loss of income, if that's the case, then you have to rewrite the budget.
Here's my budget. I have a running total of all the income and then I deduct all of the household bills which I pay every month, on the first day of the month. I then leave myself £280 in our current account to pay for diesel for the car and food for the month. It means an average spend of £35 on food and a set amount of £35 on diesel. I then pay money into a savings account to pay for the annual bills such as car tax and insurance and home insurance. I then over pay my mortgage and leave ourselves with £77.33 disposable income a month or £927.96 a year which is far more than enough for two people to do as they please with.
It was a big job to do in the first instance and we didn't like it! We now have all of our paperwork in one file and an excel spreadsheet that can be adapted if our circumstances change. We live simply so we can pay off our mortgage in eight year and have our home paid for before we retire. My only regret about the way we live is that I wish we'd done it earlier. If you look at my budget, we didn't save any money or over pay our mortgage when we were paying off debts, everything we had plus the extra income we used to have went to pay off our debts as we would never live in the simple freedom that we do now until all the debts were gone
Once you know everything you have and then everything you have to pay, which of course includes any debts you have, then and only then will you know how much money you can spend on food, transport and 'any thing else'
Some of you may be so far along the route that I'm on that you're mortgage free and you use your thrifty ways to pay for the things you like such as travel. You may have visited this blog for the first time ever in your attempts to find advice of how to live on less money. I'm sorry if this blog might seem a bit gloomy on your first ever visit but I'm living with the results of paying all my debts off, over paying my mortgage and by living cheaply, I have a simple life.
I'm now off to while away an hour or so at my sewing machine, whilst listening to music without a care. I might live without much (my choice) but I live a simple peaceful life.
Over to you Dear Reader,
What budgeting advice can you give to help people stay on track with the finances and to help them to live for less?
I'm on Radio Cornwall tomorrow from 11am to 12 noon GMT and I'll be sharing my frugal New Year resolutions and asking people to phone in with their ways that they will save money in 2013. The studio number is 01872 22 22 22, or you can email radio.cornwall@bbc.co.uk or text, 81333 starting your text with Cornwall. It would be lovely if any of you could share your money saving hopes for this year and let us know where you are texting or emailing from. It would be especially wonderful if you could email or text if this is they year that you are going to pay off as much debt as you can so we can give you a huge cheer from the studio. If you want to send your email now so you don't forget then set the subject as for Frugal Queen. Here's the link to listen again for seven days
Until later,
Love Froogs xxxxxx





My budget is done so having visited the quilting site, no need to guess what I will be doing in the morning. Listening to Froogs on Radio Cornwall and sewing. Those quilts look fantastic.
ReplyDeleteMany thanks for the link.
Love Dianne - Hereford
Yet more excellent advice. I dont think it is gloomy it is life changing which is a positive thing. I have read all your posts over the last few weeks. Each day I make a change to my routine. I am the happiest I have been for a long time. I realise Rome was not built in a day. My diary has become my best friend for planning. My direct debits come out on different days, i will be trying to change this. I no longer take my cards out with me apart from paying for fuel and food shop. This month I have paid off an extra 350 off a loan, cleared my overdraft and paid off 78 on a credit card. The card is now chopped up, boy was it satisfying. I am sorting fabrics, yarn etc . I get called quirky at work because I am crafty. Guess who they come too if something needs mending. I like simple and I am determined to clear my 18,000 loan before my 40 th birthday. If this is your first time on this blog go back and read as many posts as you can. It is excellent and worth reading. I have learnt so much. Thankyou froogs x
ReplyDeletethe quilt looks fab! I cant wait to see the end result. We have done a budget and so far we have changed my phone to sim only, as I have a cheap phone for work and everyday, we buy items we use regually in bulk when it is on offer say half price such as washing up liquid, bin bags, clothes wash liquid and tinned goods. We store it everywhere under the bed even! I learnt this from a book called 'the tightwad Gazzette'. It is full off good advice and you can use it!
ReplyDeleteAlso if you own a Nissan Quashquai, this is a good one, it has an eco meter, which tells you if you are waisting fuel, as you have to keep it past the diamond to save fuel. My husband showed me this today, as he works for them.
Even the Cars such as the leaf save you a fortune in fuel! As they are powered by batteries and cost 40p to charge up.
We are getting more and budget savy every time we do something. My husband will only dirnk on a weekend as it was getting stupid. We shop around for the best deals and we get them.
Every little helps they say!!! Allie xxxx
It is surprising how many folk just don't know how to set up a budget from scratch, but none of us know anything until we are taught. What a valuable lesson this would be if it could be taught in your final year at school.
ReplyDeleteSue xx
I am giving it all i have got :-)
ReplyDeleteIs there a link that us Froog Fans to listen to you across the oceans?
ReplyDeleteBudgeting sounds so limiting, but I actually like living on a budget. I think it's freeing. It puts my husband and I in control of the money, instead of the other way around.
ReplyDeleteWith our expenses in black and white, we can take a look and decide what's a priority to us. And we can easily identify the areas that we feel we should cut back.
Plus, if we have set our budget so that there is $25 USD to eat out for the month, we feel free to have a cheap and cheerful date, or bank that $25 for next month and have a nice dinner out.
My husband and I are now completely debt free and own our own home. We are looking at university expenses for our two youngest children, and saving for our golden years. We did all this with the help of a budget.
I will listen tomorrow. I went with the link about a scrappy quilt but I am confused - if you have 6 21/2 inches strips - when sewn together with 1/4 seams you end up with less than a 12 inch finished block - my calculations anyway. Pauline.
ReplyDeleteI think you must be double counting a seam somewhere. Six strips sewn together is only five seams using up half an inch of fabric per seam ie 2.5 inches in total. That leaves 12.5 inches ie 1/4 inch at each edge for joining the blocks together
DeleteThanks for the help.
DeleteGreat analogy FQ. If I'm sewing several similar items and I just cut out one at a time I get into such a mess; fabric and pattern pieces flying around everywhere and I'm running around trying to save everything before the cats sit on them. But if I grit my teeth, decide what I'm going to sew and then cut everything out at once I am more organised and definitely less stressed 'cos I know where I am.
ReplyDeleteLike Diane - Hereford I'll be sewing tomorrow morning. I'll fire up Helena (my embroidery machine) start sewing, log onto Radio Cornwall and listen to your excellent advice spot. You come over brilliantly on radio, it is a pleasure to listen to you.
Linda xx
I lov to visit here, great advice wonderful inspiration and a smile along the way!
ReplyDeleteJust saw these http://kellyswallow.co.uk/#/bealtaine/4564477602 and thought of you. If you fancy a change from bed quilts you could try your hand at quilting a chair. I bet you'd make a great job of it and for considerably less money!!
ReplyDeleteLinda xx
Froogs, this is my year to get my finances in order. I haven't done my tax for 6 years, and although we have no debt besides our mortgage as we always saved for big ticket items so never had consumer or credit card debt, we have never had a budget either. So who knows how much it costs to live our lifestyle? Who knows how much we are wasting? How much we could put to the mortgage? Or save for travel? I resolve that in 2013 I will be leaner - in spending, in clutter, and me!
ReplyDeleteSo my biggest money saving tip is don't go into shopping malls for a past time. Don't look and you won't be tempted to buy things you don't need. Shopping is not a hobby and families shouldn't use it as such. Don't meet up with friends in cafes in shopping centres. Just stay out of them!
There are so many other activities, eg I am do an exercise class with a friend every week so we get fit while we catch up. With another I do an occasional walk. With other ladies we take turns to host a cuppa and cake (home cooked, of course) afternoon. With my family I watch DVDs, play cards and board games, go to the beach. All free or minimal cost.
Froogs thank you so much for this encouraging blog. I have been trying to sort out a budget in order to pay off an overdraft. Hubbie not convinced by my sums / determination. He's being a bit negative (feet on the ground he says), I am being positive. However his negativity was making me feel a bit down..however...I am determined whatever he thinks and your blog today as always had made me feel even more determined. Thank you. x
ReplyDeleteMy husband was the same initially so I went ahead and did it anyway and within 2 months he saw the difference and was won over. It is hard when they're not in the same mindset as you but the figures will soon show him you were right. Good luck :-)
DeleteAh I found it after looking for ages. I wanted to say this yesterday.
ReplyDeleteHe who knows that enough is enough, will always have enough.
Lao Tzu
We all need reprograming to not want so much. There is beauty in simplicity.
I will tune in. Have a good show
Hi Froogs, we have always had a budget but it hasn't always been a good budget. By that I mean that I have always budgetted for the regular things (house payment, food, petrol, bills etc) but fell down on irregular bills etc. I think my budget is now more realistic, but I think the best advice is to be flexible with the budget, by which I mean, monitor it regularly and adapt it as required! When my husband worked full time we lived on one wage and saved the other wage. When he went onto part time we rejigged the budget. Then when he was put on 'on call casual' (read: no work!) we rejigged again. We still save but obviously not as much, we reduced our categories (no more regular entertainment budget) but still have a cash float from each pay, which can be used for whatever is required that fortnight, without using what's left in the bank. I feel that budgetting keeps me in control of the money, not the other way around!
ReplyDeleteJudy xx
Froogs you're becoming quite the radio personality...good for you!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your visit to the radio station tomorrow.
Thanks to you, I will rearrange some of my spending for this year.
I would say that tracking expenses for a period of time until it becomes a habit would be my advice. If an individual isn't familiar with a budget, then they most likely are unfamiliar with tracking each penny/pence. Nothing overlooked, track that stamp or cup of coffee from wherever, that sweater/jumper that you just couldn't live without. Carry a small notebook or a piece of paper and pencil in wallet to write it down right away before you forget. At the end of a month, total up and your eyebrows will rise at the shock of seeing what has been frittered away.
ReplyDeleteGood wishes to the one who is starting on their budget. :)
I need to review mine with the new year in mind. Good reminder!
ReplyDeleteFroogs, over the last few days I have been reading your blog from when you started - I'm only to August 2010 so far - but you always mention how much cheaper it is to use your mini-oven. Please can you advise me? Amazon currently have a 18 litre mini oven and grill, reduced from £70.05 to £39.95. Is this one worth buying or should I be looking at something larger (there's only me to cook for)? Thanks. R.
ReplyDeleteBudgeting is taught in schools and in families, through charities and in clubs, on television and in magazines, in books and on the internet, and in blogs. It is always there; has always been there; and exists across all cultures and ethnicities. Sometimes though we do not want to know.
ReplyDeleteOur family used to have a very strict budget. The most useful tip I can give is to look at the year's expenses month by month. Find the most expensive month - there will be one. Look at the total for that month. This is how much money you will need to kick off the year. Deposit that amount into your household account and then begin the usual scheme of things. It really simplifies everything.
We made two enormous mistakes in our budget. We did not budget for a holiday every couple of years, although we had allowed for birthday presents and such. The other big mistake was not budgeting for the children's university living expenses. This money could have been syphoned off for the enormous emergencies.
Life throws some curly ones at you and money may be needed for major sporting competitions when you had no idea your child had the talent. Or a student exchange. Or keeping a horse. Or dropping everything to care for dying parents. Funeral expenses are both unexpected and high. Retraining following redundancy costs lots. You will be ready financially as well as psychologically if you have a sound budget.
I went to school in England and we were never taught about budgets. I think it should be in schools. Only through hard work and research, along with a large dose of common sense have I some how mastered this all to some degree.
DeleteLife skills like this really do need to be taught in our schools, this is why we are in this mess. People not knowing their limits.
I value blogs like this as it shows that you can do it.
I had not thought about funeral expenses, that's a great tip. I should also look into making a will, for what little I do have. Thanks for that Louise, food for thought.
I find it incredible that your maths teachers did not teach you money skills. Did you learn how to calculate change when making purchases? Did you learn how to make decisions about purchasing food? You must surely have learned about simple and compound interest. You would certainly have learned the basics of international trading and economics when you learned about different countries. These are all aspects of budgeting. If you look at the school curriculum it is all there in tiny bite-sized pieces. It is definitely supposed to be taught. Perhaps you were not open to the knowledge because of factors such as advertising, social pressures, and family habits.
DeleteHi FQ - long time lurker here. I enjoy reading the blog - don't always agree with you - but always something to make people think.
ReplyDeleteMy main budget is always done on New Year's Day for the coming year, and each monthly payday I spend an hour or so checking tax etc. and making sure that any upcoming events (family birthdays/outings etc.) are covered. Payroll made an error last year but because I was on to them straight away it was sorted by the following month and I got my cash back. A colleague was amazed that I even looked at my payslip, let alone knew how much I should be paying for tax and national insurance. All they did was go to the cashpoint, see how much they had in their account and give themselves a payday "treat". I do use a cashback credit card, which is paid off each month, and I do have the occasional splurge (always planned and researched for best value (not always the cheapest))but my my view is that my money is my money and apart from the mortgage (which is due to be paid off 6 years early through o/payment) banks should pay me interest, not the other way round. So no overdrafts for me but only the minimum amount kept in my current account at any time - the rest is in an interest earning account which is reviewed regularly to make sure it is a good deal. It does take a bit of time and effort but I only spend that hour or so a month (in reality it is less than this as it is such a habit now) and then it is all sorted. Many people I know spend a great deal more of their time and emotional energy worrying because of their credit card bill/overdraft/car insurance/Christmas/whatever has caught them "unawares".
By the way, one poster stated that budgetting is taught in schools/families etc. Unfortunately, although this would be the ideal I don't think it is often the case. Cetainly my children, and now my grandchildren, did not have such lessons at school However I always tried to include them in what I was doing and why I was doing it, and so far they have remained largely debt-free. The same cannot be said for many of their friends - or mine come to that (just to acknowledge that it is not a generational thing).
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ReplyDeletesorry FQ - may have double-posted as my pc playing up. Please delete second post
ReplyDeleteI am loving your Simple Solutions posts. Keep up the good work!
ReplyDelete"If you are in a partnership, you are on a hiding to nothing if you don't do this together."
ReplyDeleteYes, a good line. I spent 35 years trying. Total waste of time.
Great posts .I have spent the last few nights reading all your posts.You have helped me plan how to get my family out of debt.I am writing my own blog about our journey called Mrs Biggs frugal life
ReplyDeleteI just did this, Froogs! Quite a sobering experience - £40 a month on "work" food and drinks! It's prompted me to finally set up a monthly payment so that I pay off my student bank account overdraft in the next 10 months, then I can close that account and never worry about it again. Thanks for this, it'll help us to save better each month, big time. xx
ReplyDeleteMy first suggestion for someone starting a budget is to either write down in a notebook/on computer every purchase: rent/mortgage, utilities, food, take out, gas etc. OR keep a large manilla envelope and stuff receipts into that for a month (may be harder to keep track of msc budget suckers such as vending machines).
ReplyDeleteTally up how much is spent in each category. As you explained, $X is coming in, you must spend less than that figure so some cutting back has to happen.
There is just no other way to avoid or reduce debt.
Good advice , my husband is the spreadsheet wizard when it comes to finances. I lost my job 18 months ago and things have been tight! Holidays only happen if we can afford it, and that's generally camping with our boys. My top tip is... Meal planning... It gets you focused on food purchases, stops you from buying things you don't need... And shopping at Aldi has saved me lots on the weekly shop!
ReplyDeleteBrilliant as always
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Brilliant as always
ReplyDeletesara
I'm really enjoying reading your "simple solutions to living cheaply". Great posts.
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting the link to your radio interview on Radio Cornwall, it was the only opportunity I had of hearing this program as I live in Australia. I loved hearing your voice and your good advice.